put own house in orderget/put (your) own house in order
to solve your own problems.
You should put your own house in order before you start giving me advice.
put (one's) (own) house in order
To resolve one's own personal problems or business affairs (especially before criticizing those of others). The president and his administration sorely need to put their house in order or they may not live to see a second term in office.Jim should go about putting his own house in order before he starts criticizing how I live my life!
put one's own house in order
to make one's own affairs right, before or instead of criticizing someone else. (See also put one's house in order.) You should put your own house in order before criticizing someone else.I have to put my own house in order before I criticize others.